This week The Ebonistas talk mommy and daddy issues, but let’s be clear – we are not licensed, professionals. Just two women researching this wild world we inhabit! We’re all going to need hugs after this.

Overcoming Toxic Parenting


  • You are not your parents.
  • You’re not the abusive things they say about you either.
  • Your parents don’t have to heal for you to get well.
  • Cutoffs may not heal.
  • You don’t have to like your parents, but you might still be attached and love them.
  • Active addiction or abuse by a parent may trigger you.
  • Set boundaries and practice non-attachment.
  • You can’t change or rescue family members.
  • Indifference, not hatred or anger, is the opposite of love.
  • Hating someone interferes with loving yourself.
  • Unresolved anger and resentment hurt you.

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